Free Classes Can Do Damage

by Tuesday, March 31, 2020
It is breaking my heart how many bellydance teachers are giving away all the free classes right now. As kind as it is, it is also doing real damage, which is going to take a lot of work to come back from. Years to come back from. I know that stings and is controversial and is gong to make people angry to hear me say, but....it’s also true.

Yes, I know, I know...it is from a heart-centered desire to reach out, and connect people. And people do need that connection. And people are hurting now, and many people are out of work and need access to ways to move and connect without onerous financial barriers. I always say money should never ever be a barrier to dance. I put my money where my mouth is and give scholarships, do work trade, and a employ a myriad of other methods in my professional teaching to make sure my dancers have access to classes regardless of their financial position. We can talk about how to do that WITHOUT giving away all your classes for free.

In the meantime, there are teachers who have fought for years to be taken seriously enough, to get paid rates they deserve for hard work. If you are a serious teacher, you know what hard work it is, and what your time is worth, and it isn’t $0/hr. These teachers are trying to scrape two pennies together right now, and how likely is that when they are still asking $10 a class when others are giving classes away for free?

Never mind studio owners (yes, like me) who had our income disappear overnight. What took a decade of planning and dreaming to build into a dance studio could end in a few short months. Because instead of getting $15 per student in a studio per week, we will likely have a tough time getting $15 per student per month on an online platform in the meantime when any day of the week they can take a half dozen online classes for free.

These professional teachers and beautifully appointed studios will be gone. We won’t be able to return to them when this is over. And we won’t be able to rebuild them for years after this with the damage we will have done to the economy of our dance. We have now told our students our price. Our value was $15/hour or more. Now it’s $0. How long will it take to to help them see us as more valuable again?

Holding On...

by Tuesday, March 24, 2020
Two more friends-of-friends passed away of COVID-19 this week. One in their 30’s, one in their 40’s. That brings the number of people within a couple degrees of me in my friends-circle who have passed to six that I know of.

My heart grieves for my community, and it’s still so early-on here in the US.

I wanna say this: be gentle with yourselves, okay? I am hearing a lot of friends who are feeling helpless and sad and emotional, and somehow feeling guilty or down on themselves for not being more resilient in the face of all this.

FORGIVE YOURSELF. IMMEDIATELY.

Stop expecting so much of yourself. Today.

This situation we’re in isn’t just not normal. This is completely off the charts, you guys. Like...there are very few people alive on this planet who have lived through anything like this, let alone something that is on a nearly *planet-wide scale*.

So yeah. I think it’s okay that you want to cry or crawl in a hole.
I feel you when you say that you don’t feel productive, that you want to binge watch shows and eat a lot of shitty food.
You are completely human that you want to take naps, and aren’t doing your best work or can’t focus very well.
I think it’s completely normal that you feel a little sick all the time and keep taking your temperature and wonder if you’re becoming a germaphobe/hypochondriac right now.
I relate to feeling angry or depressed or both when you keep deleting plans off your calendar, or had to cancel your vacation, or wanted to punch a wall when your work extended your return to work date from April 7th to “indefinitely”, because it meant “getting back to normal” was no longer a date on a calendar but a “who knows when?!”

You’re not okay and I’m not okay, and that’s okay.

We’re gonna have to make space for feeling shitty now. Now and for a while. We need to stop trying to slap a smile on our Instagrams, y’all. Not that I don’t want to see beautiful photos of your smiles, and spring flowers, and your puppies (please keep posting that!), but I want some realness, too, y’all.

Maybe that’s one good thing that’s gonna come out of all this immediately. The fake-ass social media world can finally come crashing down and you and me and everyone can stop working so damn hard to pretend everything is hunky dory all the time when it is abso-freaking-lutely NOT. Maybe we can have the good and the bad. Maybe we can have The Real.

I love you for your honesty right now, my friends. Those of you who are taking a moment to say “I’m not doing so hot.” You need to say it. We need to hear it. We ALL need to hold each other up. And not in a “Here, let me fix that for you,” kind of way. But a “Let’s hold space for each other” kind of way.

I’m holding all your hands right now while we all cry a little (or a lot, go ahead, here’s a tissue). Because that’s normal, and that’s healthy, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of, and that’s what we’re on this planet for. Each other.




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