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Showing posts with label foster. Show all posts

When I Saw My Kingy Again...

by Saturday, November 28, 2020
When I saw my Kingy again...

Kingston was our toughest foster by far. Very wary of all new people generally, and fearful of men--he would bite them. He was such a sweet dog, though--smart and goofy and adorable. He loved his foster doggo friends, and he loooved my friend Amielle Love especially. He was playful, inquisitive, and a charmer. Except for that whole "men suck" vibe.

Chris was so gentle with him, and at times got to cuddle him. It was work every day. We had him the longest--8 months in our care. That's a LONG time in foster days, most of our dogs would be adopted in weeks, tops. But we had to find the RIGHT home for him before we could let him go anywhere.

Enter his family, with the husband--gentle Cameron--especially taking to him. Even though he could barely get anywhere near Kingston, Cameron fell in love. They were so patient with him. We did maybe a half dozen pre-visits with Kingston, to get him acclimated to his new home, family, and his big sister Momo who had issues with having to share her toys--let alone family--with anyone. But bond they did, and eventually he went to his new home.

We kept in touch for a couple years after. We would see Cameron--a paper artist--in Artist Alley at local cons occasionally as well. He got to tell us in person they were going to have a baby, and hoped we could come to the shower. We were excited to get to visit with them, celebrate, and of course, see Kingston again. Would he remember us?

Their typical plan when people came over was to put Kingy in an enclosure. So he could be around everyone and be included, but wouldn't lunge or bite anyone if he got scared. It was so at this party--they had a big 10 foot pen on the lawn with Momo and Kingy in it. Kingy was barking at anyone who came close, out of fear. And he did so when we approached.

I was respectful and kept my distance from the pen, just speaking softly and telling him how good it was to see him. Bark bark bark. Bark bark bark bark. "Don't come anywhere NEAR here!" he was yelling. I continued to tell him how glad I was he had a happy home. I was getting ready to walk away without getting to pet him, when something changed. He stopped barking, and his tail--hesitantly at first and then wildly--began to wag. I dared to come a little closer, and now he was jumping jumping jumping trying to get to me. I reached out a hand, palm down, and he kissed it and wriggled, so I took it as an invitation. I got to pet him, and leaned down for face kisses from my sweet little dude. Chris was there with the camera.

You can see miserable Momo in the background, not getting ANY of my attention she SO RICHLY DESERVES. Don't worry, she got a little petting, too. But seeing my Kingy again, and him remembering me after years apart? A magic moment. I am so glad I have this photo to remind me how precious these little creatures are. I look forward to fostering again someday.

Foster Letters - Kingston 2017

by Wednesday, April 10, 2019
Going through paperwork today to get some old non-business filing taken care of, I came across this letter I wrote. As it says, I write letters to all the future forever families of our foster pups--included with a printed little "scrapbook" page of images of them--sharing personal tips on their behavior, needs, wants, etc, and sharing stories from their time with us. It is cathartic for me, but I also hope it helps get the new families and their new little member better acquainted and connected from day 1. This was the hardest, and longest, foster letter I ever wrote, but it was also the most joyful. He continues to thrive and be absolutely adored by his family, including a once jealous little sibling, the mighty pup known as Momo!


"Dear Cameron and Whitney, March 17, 2017

Something I like to do for all my fosters and their new families is write a little letter of introduction—I share some photos and thoughts about their new family member in the time we have been their loving caretakers. To say that this letter is harder to write for Kingston than it has been for any other dog in our care is an understatement.

One reason trying to write this letter is a challenge is, frankly, that you already know him so well. Rather than the usual hour or two of meet n’ greets that other new adopters get with their dogs before they take them home, you have had days with him. You have been briefed and debriefed about his habits, his quirks, his personality. You have had sleepovers with him showing you all the glowing characteristics I would usually gush about in such a letter, and you are also keenly aware of his unique challenges and have embraced him fully, lovingly, without judgement. What a lucky little dog he is to have you as his new family.

The other, obvious reason this letter is hard is because we have never had a foster for this long. Most have been a couple of weeks, and at every separation my heart has broken a little bit in the goodbyes (I wouldn’t call it easy, but it is so worth it!). We come to cherish our foster animals so deeply, getting to appreciate up-close their unique qualities and sweet dispositions. We think about all of them regularly, and frequently pore over the many photos we snap of our time with them. We are possessed of an exponential volume of memories we were blessed to get to create with Kingston and will have the joy of poring over in the years ahead, which makes the ending of our time with him that much more bittersweet.

We have watched Kingston grow from a fearful—yet ultimately rambunctious!—puppy to a sweet, curious, affectionate fellow. It took patience to build his trust, as you well know, but it has been rewarded with such tenderness. Every time I pass near him and he tilts his little hind leg up, turning his pink nose toward me, earnestly and silently begging for a belly rub, I know he has grown out of so many of his youthful fears. I call him my Circus Dog because he has always sought the highest point in any space to romp and explore—a railing, a table, a planting bed. Watch out for that one, as in this regard he truly can be fearless! He will zip in endless arcs across whatever grassy space he is set free to roam; a low, fierce white streak of joyful lightning one minute, then lightly bounding like a tiny gazelle over any obstacles. I will miss his plaintive, insistent bark/howls when he thinks Taddy is hogging all the tennis balls, and I feel confident you will have better success in the quest to teach him to fetch. “Why give you the ball when I can simply have the ball?” I imagine him asking with the tilt of his scruffy head. 

Giving Kingston over to someone else’s care was always going to be a trust fall for us. But I can say with complete honesty we are excited to see Kingston move on into your home and hearts. Your compassion for him, your patience and gentleness, and your positive energy are the exact combination of qualities he needs to thrive, and it is clear to me that you both offer these things openly, generously. It is with great confidence and joy that we see him go to his forever home with you and Momo.

Speaking of Momo, give my love to her, won’t you? Tell her it won’t be an easy adjustment at first, but I trust that she, too, will learn to love and cherish Kingston the way we and Winnie and Taddy have. He will be a great little brother given a chance, and will seem like family that has always been there in no time.

Thank you for loving Kingston. I hope you will keep in touch.
With love,
Shay"


Fostering Pups!

by Wednesday, July 06, 2016
I have to say, now on our second (and third) foster experience, it has been great so far. We have been lucky, I think, with the animals who have come to stay with us. Layla was perfection, and it was really really really hard to let her go (twice!). But we stuck it out and got these two little muffins, Celeste (Cece!) and Oscar.

And I love them. Like, all over again I am madly in love.

Oscar is SO not the kind of dog I fall for, but he found his way into my heart immediately with his enthusiastic tail wagging, expressive face, and just plain BRAVERY! He was found tied to a freeway fence so tightly they had to cut the rope off. He was being stalked by large street dogs ready to attack, and was saved just in time. How an animal so cruelly abused and abandoned is so sweet and trusting...? He's just so freaking resilient and joyful, tons of personality, all in about a 6 pound body!

And Cece...who couldn't fall in love with her? Her exotic look with one brown eye and one bright splotted blue sucks you right in. She loves to play, but is also so mellow and loves to be held and cuddled, resting her head on your shoulder like you've known her all along, even if you just met her. She will curl up into a little fluffy ball and snore quietly as you pet her.

But the best part? I don't want to adopt them.

That sounds weird, I know, but hear me out. With Layla, we were so in love we wanted to keep her. Letting her go was misery because we could see her being a part of our family so comfortably. I was afraid that the future of fostering would go two ways: either we would love them and letting them go would be heartbreaking over and over, or we would not love them (or worse, have to actively harden ourselves to them) so we could let them go with happiness at finding them a new home. Well, it turns out that yeah, I can fall head over heels in love with these sweet furbabies AND can be excited to help find them a new forever home. It is a relief to know that I can be a foster who loves the animals entrusted to her. Because the alternative was bumming me out.

So news flash: love these pups! They are just the bees-knees! And I can't wait to get them adopted out so they can spread their magic to someone lucky enough to have them in their lives!


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